THE BLOG
Parenting my three neurodivergent kids feels heavy sometimes.
There are days when I get down on myself for mistakes I have made, especially when I lose my temper during hard moments.
On those days, it is easy to feel like a failure as a parent.
But over time, I have learned that how I talk to myself in those moments matters just as much as what happened.
One strategy that has truly helped me is positive self-talk.
It is not just a feel-good exercise.
Positive self-talk is a real tool for emotional self-regulation, and it can change the entire tone of your home.
Positive self-talk means intentionally choosing encouraging thoughts instead of letting your brain spiral into negativity.
It sounds simple, but it is powerful. In hard moments, positive self-talk can ground you, helping you stay calmer and more connected to your child.
Some examples of positive self-talk include:
"I am patient and capable."
"I can handle hard moments with grace."
"This challenge is an opportunity for growth."
Positive self-talk reminds you that even when things feel chaotic, you are doing the best you can.
When you practice positive self-talk, you are not just helping yourself.
You are modeling resilience, self-compassion, and optimism for your child.
You show them what it looks like to face mistakes with kindness.
You show them that emotions can be managed and that mistakes are a normal part of learning and growing.
This builds trust, emotional safety, and stronger relationships at home.
If parenting has felt extra heavy lately, I invite you to listen to Episode 99 of the Every Brain is Different podcast.
You will find simple self-talk strategies you can start using right away to feel more grounded and supported in your parenting journey.