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IEP meetings can be so overwhelming, especially when the strategies you came up with in the last meeting aren’t working, or the IEP isn’t being implemented the way it’s supposed to be.
It can be draining to continually advocate for your child when you don’t know the answer, you’re introverted, non-confrontational, or just plain exhausted.
But your voice matters.
In episode 102 of the Every Brain is Different podcast, Gail Ewell, founder of Hope Technology School, shared how she had to push herself to speak up for her kids' needs. “I had to learn how to advocate and not be afraid to ask,” she said. “Sometimes we are. It's hard to ask professionals that you feel like you don't.”
So, how do you advocate even when it feels uncomfortable?
Here are a few practical strategies that came up in the conversation:
Start by asking questions. You don’t need to have all the answers, just be willing to start the conversation.
Bring the team together. That includes teachers, school staff, and your child’s outside therapists (like occupational therapists and speech-language pathologists). Share what’s working in private therapy and ask if it can be used at school.
Build relationships, not battles. Focus on collaboration, not confrontation. A respectful partnership can go a long way in getting what your child needs.
Understand the school's limitations. Many educators want to help but may lack training or resources. Framing your requests as solutions, not demands, often leads to better outcomes.
Don’t be afraid to push when necessary. Some schools are more receptive than others. If you know something will help your child, keep asking, even if it takes multiple conversations.
Include your requests in the IEP. If it’s not written down, it’s less likely to happen. Inclusion goals, visual supports, and classroom strategies should all be documented.
You don’t have to be the loudest person in the room to be a strong advocate. You just have to show up, speak up, and keep going, even when it’s hard.
To hear more inclusion strategies with Gail Ewel, check out episode 102 of the Every Brain is Different podcast.