
What to Look for in an ABA Center (From a Parent Who's Been There)
If your child has been diagnosed with autism, there’s a good chance you’ve already heard the term ABA (Applied Behavior Analysis). For many families, it’s the first (and often only) recommendation they receive.
That was my experience when my oldest was diagnosed. The only resources handed to us were a genetic study and an ABA referral. That was it.
Since then, I’ve learned so much more, not just about ABA, but about the importance of finding a program that truly honors who your child is, not just how they behave.
If you’re exploring ABA for your child, here are some things I wish I had known from the start:
1. Look for Client-Centered Care
A respectful ABA program starts with client assent. That means your child’s preferences and communication, whether verbal or nonverbal, are taken seriously. If they’re not into it that day? A good provider backs off. No forcing. No bribing. Just support and skill-building at their pace.
2. It’s Not About Changing the Child, It’s About Changing the Environment
The right ABA program doesn’t try to “fix” your child to make them appear more neurotypical. Instead, it focuses on modifying the environment, at home, school, or in the community, to better support your child’s unique strengths and needs.
3. Parent Involvement Is a Must
You are the expert on your child. If a provider tells you otherwise or dismisses your insights, that’s a red flag. Research shows that when parents and caregivers are involved in the process, children make more progress. You should be part of setting goals, tracking progress, and shaping what success looks like.
4. It’s About Teaching Skills, Not Demanding Compliance
Quality ABA centers focus on functional communication, emotional regulation, and autonomy. It’s not about getting your child to sit still or follow every command. It’s about helping them gain tools to express themselves, navigate their world, and access what they love.
5. Trust Your Gut
If an ABA center gives off the vibe that they know your child better than you do or says something like “Parents don’t know what their child needs,” RUN. You deserve a team that listens, respects, and collaborates with you every step of the way.
ABA is not the only intervention out there, and it’s certainly not a one-size-fits-all solution. If you do choose to pursue it, make sure the program focuses on empowerment, respect, and meaningful progress, not just behavior modification.
You don’t have to figure this out alone. If you want to talk more about what to look for in an ABA program or explore other options that might be right for your family, I’m here. You can email me at [email protected].