When Parenting Feels Heavy: How Positive Self-Talk Can Help

Parenting my three neurodivergent kids feels heavy sometimes.

There are days when I get down on myself for mistakes I have made, especially when I lose my temper during hard moments.

On those days, it is easy to feel like a failure as a parent.

But over time, I have learned that how I talk to myself in those moments matters just as much as what happened.

One strategy that has truly helped me is positive self-talk.

It is not just a feel-good exercise.

Positive self-talk is a real tool for emotional self-regulation, and it can change the entire tone of your home.

What Is Positive Self-Talk?

Positive self-talk means intentionally choosing encouraging thoughts instead of letting your brain spiral into negativity.

It sounds simple, but it is powerful. In hard moments, positive self-talk can ground you, helping you stay calmer and more connected to your child.

Some examples of positive self-talk include:

• "I am patient and capable."

• "I can handle hard moments with grace."

• "This challenge is an opportunity for growth."
  

Positive self-talk reminds you that even when things feel chaotic, you are doing the best you can.

Why It Matters for Your Child

When you practice positive self-talk, you are not just helping yourself.
You are modeling resilience, self-compassion, and optimism for your child.

You show them what it looks like to face mistakes with kindness.
You show them that emotions can be managed and that mistakes are a normal part of learning and growing.

This builds trust, emotional safety, and stronger relationships at home.

Need a Little Extra Support?

If parenting has felt extra heavy lately, I invite you to listen to Episode 99 of the Every Brain is Different podcast.

You will find simple self-talk strategies you can start using right away to feel more grounded and supported in your parenting journey.